Who am I?

Who am I?

Knowing who you are, knowing what your boundaries are, knowing your dislikes and likes and knowing how your personality is a pretty big deal.

I know many people who have figured out things like what they want to pursue in the future, what their hobbies are, what kind of personality they have and what makes them happy. I have not figured out any of that. So I end up feeling very left out, confused and anxious. Being in an environment where you feel left out often causes the urge to constantly fit in, especially when someone is already not confident with themselves. I decided to write on this topic because this feeling of not knowing who I was troubled me, and led to a lot of overthinking, so just to help anyone else going through the same

here's what to do

• Knowing that you can't control things like when you're going to figure out who you are, really does help even though it may not seem like it. The fact that you can't control it might end up being something that annoys you, but you will still be able to avoid pressuring yourself to fit in. Instead of getting annoyed and losing patience after knowing that you can't control this may not be the best step to take, try to enjoy the process of figuring yourself out even though it might get hard at times.

• Finding yourself is a slow process, as a teenager, you might be pressured directly or indirectly to decide what you want to be when you grow up or what your hobbies are, just know that focusing on the little things will help you decide things like that. Just know that finding yourself is important but it's a slow process, and delving into the pressure will only worsen the situation.

• Be easy on yourself. Don't be hard on yourself even though it might be hard if you have developed that as a habit, but treating yourself the way you treat the people you love is one of the best things you can do to yourself. If you feel like you are the only person you know, who hasn't figured themselves out, don't be too hard on yourself, and go easy on yourself and be patient.